#brunchtopic - what I'm thinking about this Mother's Day

All I want for the mothers this Mother’s Day is universal paid maternity leave. I think six months guaranteed would be reasonable. (Also, “responsible” and “profitable”.) Anything less could be mother's choice.

Research shows that six months is an age at which many mothers feel steady and ready to separate from those intimate, confining early days of life. Not all mothers. But this is a sensible place to begin.

This is about cultural re-integration of the feminine. This is for the benefit of all. 

Our predominant way is to be obsessed with controlling time, with policies of order and consistency--but ours is a messy universe.

We must remember what freedom and flexibility offer--the chance for each of us to be in our fullest expression. 

Mention #matleave.

Love and gratitude to all the mothers mothering.


P.S. Each time a woman speaks up about her experience, she gives another woman the space to own hers as well. You may have seen my Instagram post referencing the book Body Full of Stars: Female Rage and My Passage into Motherhood by Molly Caro May; it was deeply affecting. This is a revelatory story. A body story. A lineage story. A story of intersections that may remind you of your own intersections with culture, family, desire, self. It's the kind of book that makes you want to hold onto the accuracy of your experience because truth is a hardness that sets you free. This book won't be for everyone, but if it is for you, you will know.